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Sickly Skinny. Insight Letter. Weigh In Picture.

I think we all have those times when we just run out of steam when it comes to blogging - I hit that last week and didn't post at all for a week. It's back though. It's clicked again and here I am.
Lately, I have had people tell me that I look sickly skinny (and I am no where close to that), but do believe it is because they are the ones that knew me when I was big. Mac at getfitslowly did a post about this and I agree with him. People that have known me big will have an opinion on how I look and at how I will look when I hit goal weight. It may not always be a positive opinion. I never thought of it this way, but people will now poke at me telling me I need to eat more or that I am too healthy. It's weird to think that.

Can it be that my weight loss has them feeling inferior or has given them personal convictions about their own weight?

Either way, I know where I need to be and I will not stop. The challenge that I have been hosting has been going well and I have reached the 180s again. I finally feel that I've found my groove again in weight loss. No more maintaining! I haven't felt like this in a couple months - glad to have it again.

I wrote a message, as I try to do often, to those that are participating in the challenge. I thought that it applied to all of you reading as well, so I have posted it for you.

Hey Everyone!

Week 3 can be very challenging for a lot of people during this six week challenge. Some have dropped out after just two weeks in prior challenges and I hope that this is not the case with this one. Last week appeared to be a tough week for many of you - myself included. We all have different things going on in our lives that play a part in how active we are in our pursuit of better health.

I just wanted to give you some insight and also to challenge you to take a closer look at how this can make a difference in how you live your life.

I use to weigh 255 lbs. That is, according to my BMI chart (which many insurance companies go from - ridiculous I know), 85-100 lbs overweight. I was unhappy with how I looked, unhappy in what I could and couldn't do, and unhappy in how I felt physically. I was good at hiding it though and you wouldn't have been able to tell that I was unhappy. Something clicked though and I wanted to change. I saw a picture of myself that was taken during school. I thought to myself, "that's what I look like?". At that point, I gave up my mountain dew addiction. I lost 15 lbs the rest of that year and all I did was give up Mountain Dew. This year - starting January 5th, 2010 - I have been disciplined, self-controlled, and motivated to get to 170 lbs. I've lost just over 50 lbs this year and feel pretty great. It's amazing the difference in how I hold myself, how I feel, and how bright the future seems.

I don't write this message to boast on my accomplishments or successes, but to show you that you can do this despite how difficult it feels sometimes. Success builds on success and you can overcome the difficult periods with discipline, self-control, and motivation to be what you were meant to be. We were not meant to be lazy, fat, or a slave to bad habits. Choose a healthier life and see just how far you can go.

I have 19.6 pounds to go to hit that goal weight and I will get there. I want to help you get to where you want to be too. Don't view this challenge as just a way to win money or something that is temporary, but as an opportunity to build a strong foundation to a mountain of healthy successes.

Week 3 will be our best week yet if you set your mind to it. Focus and follow through.

- Seth

There you go. Here is my last weigh-in picture for the challenge.


Allan said...

Looking great !!! Fantastic, motivation, inspiration, thanks !!!

Tara said...

Mr Tyler I never thought I'd say this but we weigh the same now! That is friggin awesome for both of us! I too have taken a hiatus from blogging. Its due to not working in a cubicle any longer. Coming back around though!

Thanks for traveling this journey with me. You have been an amazing friend.

Katie J said...

Interesting perspecive man! Thank you for sharing and thanks for all your encouragement and support. Means a lot!!

-J.Darling said...

I know the feeling! I can't remember how many times I've been told, "You don't need to lose weight," even when I was 255lbs!

As long as you're healthy, keep on truckin!

I am hopin' to shake hands w/ Onderland again next week!

Christine said...

Congrats on your great success! Keep going! Don't let anyone stop you from reaching for a goal.

Tonyne @ Unlikely Success Story said...

I get "You need to stop losing weight or you'll blow away" and "You look anorexic" a lot. I don't appreciate it. I know that people don't mean these things hurtfully, but it's tough to keep the perspective.

I understand about hitting the blogging wall. I am trying to recoup from that myself.

cmoursler said...

Hey seth. You don't look sickly skinny at all, you know...if you think about it..and you look at how people are around Christians when they are living a christian life, you will get that too. Why do you do this or not do this. People do it to homeschoolers...and they do it with people losing weight.
mediocrity is easier to live with than excellence.
Conviction is a pain in the heart to many people.
keep up the good work.

CLAMCO said...

I agree with don't look sickly at all, you look great! My husband and I both lost 20 lbs and people who haven't seen us in a while notice the change right away, but then follow up with, "You're not sick or anything, are you?" It takes us off guard but I understand where they're coming from.

Kim said...

congrats on entering the 180's! i actually have received quite a few of those comments regarding being "too skinny" - part of me thinks they might be right - but when I look in a mirror i don't see that just yet.

one coworker describes me as "frail" - but i feel far from that. but i think it is more of a compliment.

as for the rest - i think a handful have been convicted about their own weight, and the rest just want to make sure i'm doing this the right way.

but comments like that always make me do a double take!

Mary (A Merry Life) said...

You look freaking fantastic. And what you think about how you look and feel is what matters. No one looking at you knows your body as well as you do. You can't listen to other people ... they are the ones who may have told you not to lose weight at your biggest (I got that a few times... Oh you don't need to lose weight!... Right.). You don't look sickly skinny, you look awesome!

SeattleRunnerGirl said...

You look great, as the others have said. And you're the only one who can be the judge of what weight your body feels healthiest, fittest, and strongest! I'm at 217, which is still +/- 50-75 pounds overweight and people tell me I look "so skinny" due to the weight I've lost. I love the sentiment, but I'm not stopping until *I* feel at home, strong, healthy, and ready to kick butt in my own skin.

*Whitney* said...

You look healthy now, definitely not sickly at all! My parents fed me that line, too. I've only lost 20 lbs, but they say my face is too LOL

Great job on this week's loss!

Scarlett said...


Great progress and attitude. You look great!

Paula Rodriguez said...


I agree with others about you NOT LOOKING SICKLY SKINNY. I think you're on point as to the reasons. After losing 45 lbs., I get a similar reaction from my husband's relatives. They're always saying "Eat, leave the diet for tomorrow" as they're shoveling enchilladas and home made tortillas in front of me.



MaryFran said...

When I had reached the top of my goal weight range (before I gained some back...blech) I had people telling me that I was looking gaunt. HELLO! I think you nailed it on the head when you said it causes them to step back and brings their own convictions, guilt and envy to the forefront!

Kyle Gershman said...

I got the same kinds of comments too...definitely a different perspective on their parts from seeing me at my absolute largest. Change is difficult, on everyone.