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10.01.2010

Self-Concept - the secret killer


Self-Concept can be a positive and a negative thing. When someone has a positive perception of themself, they have a confidence that can be undone by nothing. On the flip side however, when one has a negative perception of who they are, what they look like, what they can do, what worth they have, and of their ability - life won't look to bright for them.

If you look at what "self-concept" is...

self-concept: "the idea or mental image one has of oneself and one's strengths, weaknesses, and status,etc.; self-image." [def. found here]

It correlates well with what perception we have of ourselves.

I went to run the 5k race course yesterday and while I was running I met an older guy doing the same thing. We briefly chatted about the course and I took off again. He had already finished two miles [the course comes back on itself] and I was just 1 mile into it. For some reason - I started thinking about my self-concept. I thought about how I viewed myself and also what he thought of me as a runner. He was a veteran runner.

When I was first starting out with my weight loss, was I really 'just another fat guy trying to be skinny' -- or was I more?!

I'll admit that what I ate and how much of it did define my eating habits, my self-esteem, my self-discipline and control, but it did not define who I was. I am fearfully and wonderfully made and when I forget that...my self-concept goes down the toilet.

I kept thinking about how others see me now and how my self-image lacks. I still think of me as being fat and slow, but know that my body reflects a different image. There were times that I didn't want to look in the mirror knowing that my belly was going to be sticking way out. I still criticize my body because it isn't where I want it to be. I'll be honest. This is probably the stuff that people don't want to talk about in the blogosphere, but it's truth.

I'll tell you now though, I don't mind looking in the mirror. I like what I see - I should have liked what I saw last year, but I was blinded my a negative self-concept. Yes, I was fat, but that did not make me inferior, ugly, or unworthy of happiness.

Today - I challenge you to go in front of the mirror - take a picture - and be proud of who you are [not defined by a number, not defined by the world, not defined by a negative self-concept] knowing that you are taking the steps in becoming a healthier YOU.



Go take and post your UNAFRAID picture!

7 comments:

Kerri O said...

Such a great post Seth. Every time I think I've conquered that negative self image, that negative self talk, it'll creep back in.

Patrick said...

Fear no camera. Unless a government official is holding it, then run.

Have a good weekend!

Josie said...

love.this.post.

I Will Lay Down My Idols said...

Good post. Hmmm. Lots to think about. I think I see-saw from hating what I see in the mirror to thinking what I see is great/good and then I get a reality check (my perception?) and don't like what I see again...this is at different times (not within minutes LOL).
I cringe at some pics of me and love others.
Digital cameras have made me see myself more...good & bad.
D

Amber said...

Great post! I really needed to read this right now. I have been struggling with my own self-image recently.
I even had a few comments from others, nice comments but I didn't take them well because I felt the complemnts weren't justified.
I need to work on being happy with me, still making me better but that the me I am right now is ok.

thanks again!

cmoursler said...

great post. I too wished I was happy (or happier) with who I was when I was fat. I wasted alot of time not living out of self loathing and fear.
I would take a pic, but can't find my camera...so, even though I am disorganized. I love me anyways. lol.

Meegan (redstar5) said...

Seth, I really enjoyed this post. So many of your thoughts on self image (both the negative and the postive) resonated with me. I'm currently without camera, but I will give his challenge a "shot" sometime this weekend.
Project love who-we-are-today in full effect!
- Meegan